HOW TO HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS AND SWIM THROUGH THE WATERS IN THE EARLY STAGES OF YOUR MUSIC CAREER .

A REALISTIC GUIDE FOR NIGERIAN UPCOMING ARTISTES BASED ON REAL EXPERIENCE

Starting a music career in Nigeria is not for the faint-hearted and anybody who tells you otherwise hasn’t lived it.

Some days, you wake up feeling like the next global superstar. Your vocals align effortlessly, your sound feels divine, and the love from your last release is still warming your chest.

But then there are the other days…the quieter days.

The days where numbers freeze, comments slow down, even your close friends forget to repost, and suddenly the doubt starts whispering:

“Maybe this thing no be for me.”

“Maybe I’m not as good as I thought.”

If you’re reading this, you know that feeling too well.

This blog is not here to motivate you blindly.

It is a **REALISTIC** roadmap ,a guide built on what actually happens in the early years of a Nigerian music career.

We’re talking emotions, strategy, choosing the right people, resetting when necessary, recognizing when it’s time to pause, and surviving the phases where nothing seems to be working.

This is for artistes in their first few years  those 0–6 years where everything feels unstable, unpredictable, and emotionally confusing.

Let’s dive deep.

 1. Understand That Early Career Growth Is Erratic, Not Smooth

This is the first shock every artiste faces.

Your journey will NOT move in a straight line.

It comes in waves  sometimes high, sometimes low, sometimes painfully still.

You will have a song that moves unexpectedly,

another song that performs mid,another one that gets almost zero attention.

This doesn’t mean you’re finished or declining  it simply means **you haven’t found your rhythm yet**. Every artiste goes through this phase, even the ones who “blew overnight.”

Nothing is wrong with you.

**What to actually do:**

* Track progress over months, not days

* Identify what works instead of reacting emotionally

* Accept that slow days are part of the journey, not punishment

Your early supporters even if they’re only 20 consistent people  are more valuable than a random viral moment wether or not it feels that way at the moment.

2. How to Handle Emotional Highs and Lows Professionally

Nobody prepares you for how emotionally draining music can be.

One minute you’re excited.

The next minute you’re doubting everything.

Some days you feel unstoppable.

The next day you’re wondering if you’re just wasting money.

The emotional rollercoaster is NORMAL what matters is how you manage it.

✔ *Stop comparing your start to someone else’s middle

You don’t see the money, the PR, the team, the distribution, the ghostwriters, or the connections backing many of the artistes you idolize.

Your journey is yours,it’s unique.

That artist you see selling out stadiums and having fans that’ll do anything for them probably even started out worse than you and might not tell ..

So what makes you think you’re at your end ?

âś” *Use the 24-hour emotional rule

Give yourself time to feel disappointment, but don’t live inside it.

Feel it today continue working tomorrow.

Don’t cancel a show because you feel down

Don’t be rude to a fan because you’re too tired to be nice ..

No matter what’s going on , the show must go on

âś” *Create a structure to prevent burnout

Inconsistency is usually a sign of emotional overload, not lack of talent.

Schedule says for rest ,days for recording,days for learning , days for having fun ,days for performance,days for meeting.

Always do everything proportionately and remember the best you’ll ever do is while you are happy

 

âś” *Detach your value from numbers

Numbers reflect visibility, not talent.

Visibility can change quickly  talent remains.Likes and streams don’t define your talent they define your current reach. Two different things.

3. Build the Right Circle Early (This Is Where Most Upcoming Artistes Fail)

The people around you can make or destroy your career before it even starts.

You need people who:

* give honest feedback without killing your spirit

*Actually like your music

* send you opportunities

* understand your direction

* believe in development, not shortcuts

* think beyond vibes

 

Avoid those who:

* only praise you but never correct you

* think every song must sound like a trending artiste

*Push you to be financially wasteful

*Only ever have something wrong to point out

* get jealous when you grow

* always discourage your ideas

* compete with your progress

Your circle is part of your brand.

Choose slowly, and choose wisely.

 

4. How to Pick the Right Manager (Your Niche Matters!)

 

Many artistes choose the wrong manager simply because the person “believes in them.”

Belief is good  but competence is better.

Your manager must fit your lane.

A manager who understands:

* Afrobeats may NOT understand RnB

* Street-pop promotion is different from Alte promotion

* Soul/RnB artistes need storytelling & intimacy-based marketing

* Rap/Trap artistes need cultural alignment and community

A great manager is not your friend — they are your partner.

They must be, organised, patient, connected (or ready to build connections), able to pitch you professionally, consistent, aligned with your genre and personality.Not a gold digger just wanting to push you and eat off your hard work.

Choose with sense, not emotion.

 

5. HOW TO KNOW WHEN IT’S TIME TO PAUSE, REASSESS, OR REBRAND

One of the hardest truths in music is this:

Sometimes the problem is not your talent.

It’s your presentation, branding, strategy, or direction.

Many upcoming artistes keep releasing songs back-to-back without stopping to ask:

“Is my music actually connecting?”

“Is my image matching my sound?”

“Do people know what to expect from me?”

A pause is not failure.

It’s *maintenance.*

Even your favourite artistes take breaks to refine themselves.

You may need to stop and reassess if:

**âś” Your music is good but not memorable**

This means your delivery is clean, your production is fine, but your sound doesn’t leave an imprint.

People enjoy it, but they don’t remember it.

That usually means you haven’t found your signature style yet — the thing that makes YOU different.

**✔ Your image doesn’t match your sound**

This one is HUGE.

If you sing soft R&B but dress like a street pop artiste, your audience gets confused.

People need to *see* what they are hearing.

Music is sound + identity.

âś” Your artwork and visuals look inconsistent

Your cover art looks like 5 different artistes created it.

Different fonts, different colour palettes, different energies.

Visual confusion affects how the industry takes you seriously.

✔ Your online presence isn’t appealing or intentional

Maybe your page looks scattered.

Maybe you don’t tell your story.

Maybe you post vibes instead of strategy.

Your social media is your digital CV — labels and fans judge you from it.

 

✔ Your songs don’t reflect your personality

Maybe you’re singing what’s trending instead of what is authentic to you.

The audience can ALWAYS tell when you’re performing instead of expressing.

A Rebrand Usually Involves:

A rebrand isn’t about throwing away everything you’ve done.

It’s about polishing yourself into the VERSION of you that the industry can finally recognise, understand, and support.

Think of it like cleaning a camera lens.

The picture was always there  it just wasn’t clear.

Here’s what a real rebrand looks like:

Refining Your Look (Your Visual Identity)

Your appearance speaks before your music enters the room.

You don’t have to bleach, tattoo your whole body, or start wearing heavy chains — that’s not “branding,” that’s confusion.

Refining your look means:

* Dressing in a way that matches your sound

* Finding hairstyles that suit your face and image

* Choosing outfits that reflect your personality

* Looking like the artiste you say you are

 

Example:

If you make soulful R&B, soft tones and clean aesthetics work.

If you do street-pop or Afrofusion, bold, expressive styles fit.

Your look should help people remember you.

Cleaning Up Your Pages (Digital Housekeeping)

Your social media is your digital home.

If it looks scattered, unserious, or dusty, people assume your craft is the same.

Cleaning your pages means:

* Removing irrelevant old posts

* Deleting unnecessary selfies from 2018

* Keeping your highlights clean

* Posting intentional content

* Making your page look like an artiste’s page, not a random personal diary

Industry people WILL check your page.

Make it worth their time.

Choosing a Colour / Style Identity (Brand Consistency)

Every successful artiste has a defined visual vibe:

* Burna Boy → green, black, afro-futuristic

* Ayra Starr → celestial aesthetics

* Omah Lay → purple, moody energy

* Asake → street, brown tones, cultural visuals

Pick colours or themes that feel like YOU and stick to them.

It helps your brand become instantly recognisable.

When you create a new post or artwork, ask:

“Does this match my vibe?”

Working on a Unique Sound (Finding Your Signature)

Before you “blow,” you need a sound that people can identify without checking the credits.

Working on a unique sound means:

* Spending time with one or two dedicated producers

* Experimenting until you find a consistent sonic identity

* Avoiding copying trending artistes

* Identifying what your voice naturally does best

Your signature sound is your fingerprint.

It’s what makes you stand out in an industry full of noise.

Taking a Strategic Break from Releases (Not Disappearing Planning)

A break is NOT a disappearance.

It’s not you “running away” from music.

It’s you stepping back to rebuild properly.

 

During this break, you should be:

* Learning your audience

* Reworking your content strategy

* Building an archive of fire songs

* Studying your niche

* Planning your comeback intentionally

 

Many artistes blow AFTER a strategic pause because the break gave them clarity.

You’re Not Starting Over  You’re Restarting With Clarity.

A rebrand doesn’t erase your old journey  it refines it.

It’s like wiping the fog off a mirror.

The face is the same, but now you can finally *see* it clearly.

 

ENDING INSIGHT Are You a Musician or a Songwriter?

This conversation is uncomfortable but necessary.

In the early stages of your career, you must ask yourself:

“Am I meant for the spotlight or the writing room?”

Both roles are powerful.

Both pay well.

Both change lives.

But they require different strengths.

Signs You May Be More of a Songwriter:

Writing comes naturally but singing feels draining

People praise your lyrics more than your vocals

You enjoy creating melodies but don’t crave the spotlight

You thrive in collaborative environments

You love crafting songs for different moods or artistes

This doesn’t mean you can’t be an artiste —

it simply means you have another gift that might take you even further.

Songwriters earn quietly.

Musicians shine loudly.

Both succeed differently.

Your true calling is where your spirit feels most at home.

 

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